Resources

Literature:

Journal Articles:

International Journal of Yoga Therapy – Yoga Therapy in Practice – Trauma Sensitive Yoga: Principles, Practice and Research
When Your Child “Comes Out”

PDF – Love Addiction – 40 Question Self Diagnosis

PDF – Suicide & Crisis Resources – Worldwide Listings

The following is a list of books by subject.

Abuse

• “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft
• “Getting Free” by Ginny Nicarthy
• “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin de Becker
• “The Betrayal Bond.” By Patrick Carnes
• “The Trauma Spectrum” by Robert Scaer
• “I Never Called it Rape” by Robin Warshaw
• The Verbally Abusive Relationship

ADHD & Attention Concerns

• Organizing from the Right Side of the Brain: A Creative Approach to Getting Organized
• What Does Everybody Else Know That I Don’t?: Social Skills Help for Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder
• Time Management for the Creative Person: Right-Brain Strategies for Stopping Procrastination, Getting Control of the Clock and Calendar, and Freeing Up Your Time and Your Life
• Learning Outside The Lines: Two Ivy League Students with Learning Disabilities and ADHD Give You the Tools for Academic Success and Educational Revolution
• Making the System Work for Your Child with ADHD
• Mastering Your Adult ADHD: A Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment Program Client Workbook (Treatments That Work)
• Taking Charge of ADHD, Third Edition: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents
• Driven to Distraction (Revised): Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder

Anger

• Letting Go of Anger: The Eleven Most Common Anger Styles And What to Do About Them
• Beating Anger: The Eight-Point Plan for Coping with Rage
• How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You
• Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

Assertiveness and Healthy Communication

• Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
• The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate
• Your Perfect Right: Assertiveness and Equality in Your Life and Relationships (9th Edition)
• The Assertive Woman (Personal Growth)

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

• Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents – Lindsay C Gibson
• “Will I Ever Be Good Enough” by Karyl McBride
• Understanding the Borderline Mother by Christine Ann Lawson
• “Stop Walking On Eggshells” by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger
• “I Hate You – Don’t Leave Me” by Jerold Kreisman

Childhood Sexual Abuse:

Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse:

• RAINN: Rape Abuse & Incest National Network
• Hush: Moving From Silence to Healing After Childhood Sexual Abuse
• The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, 20th Anniversary Edition
• The Courage to Heal Workbook: A Guide for Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
• Voices of Courage: Inspiration from Survivors of Sexual Assault

Ritual Abuse During Childhood:

• Not Without My Sister: The True Story of Three Girls Violated and Betrayed by Those They Trusted

Male Incest Survivors:

• A Beautiful World: One Son’s Escape from the Snares of Abuse and Devotion • Father’s Touch, Second Edition

Teen Survivors of Sexual Abuse:

• It Happened to Me: A Teen’s Guide to Overcoming Sexual Abuse (workbook)
• How Long Does It Hurt: A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, Their Friends, and Their Families

CHRONIC ILLNESS

• Sick and Tired of Feeling Sick and Tired: Living with Invisible Chronic Illness (New Edition)
• How to Be Sick by Toni Bernhard
• Everything Happens for a Reason: And other Lies I’ve Loved by Kate Bowler
• Whats Wrong with Me? by Meghan O’Rourke
• Befriending the Wolf by Milly Diericx

CHILDREN, TEENS AND PARENTING

• Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
• How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
• Yes, Your Teen is Crazy!: Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind
• Getting to Calm: Cool-Headed Strategies for Parenting Tweens + Teens
• Parenting Teens With Love And Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood, Updated and Expanded Edition
• Positive Discipline for Teenagers, Revised 3rd Edition: Empowering Your Teens and Yourself Through Kind and Firm Parenting
• Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall: A Parent’s Guide to the New Teenager, Revised and Updated
• Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls
• Parents, Teens and Boundaries: How to Draw the Line
• If Your Adolescent Has an Anxiety Disorder: An Essential Resource for Parents (Annenberg Foundation Trust at Sunnylands’ Adolescent Mental Health Initiative)
• All Grown Up And No Place To Go: Teenagers In Crisis, Revised Edition
• “1,2,3 Magic” by Thomas Phelan
• “Scream Free Parenting” by Hal Edward Runkel
• “The Boy Who was Raised as a Dog” by Bruce Perry
• “Emotional Intelligence” by Daniel P Goleman
• “Parenting from the Inside Out” by Daniel Siegel
• Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes” by Peter Levine and Maggie Kline
• How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

COUPLES

Marriage:

• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert
• Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships
• Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last

All Romantic Relationships:

• What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
• The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples
• Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind – and Keep – Love
• Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
• Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition
• The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
• “I love you. Talk to Me.” Don Harvey
• “The Anatomy of Peace”
• “Dealing with Difficult People” Alan Godwin
• After the Affair by Janis Abrahms Spring

Sex & Intimacy:

• Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship
• Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
• Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships • The Return of Desire: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Sexual Passion

Infidelity & Affairs:

• After the Affair, Updated Second Edition: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
• Torn Asunder: Recovering From an Extramarital Affair
• Shattered Vows: Hope and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed
• Breakups, Separation, and Divorce
• Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship
• Dinosaurs Divorce (A Guide for Changing Families)
• The Boys and Girls Book About Divorce
• Should I Try to Work It Out?: A Guidebook for Individuals and Couples at the Crossroads of Divorce
• The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage

DIFFICULT CHILDHOOD (ABUSIVE, NEGLECTFUL, OR UNHEALTHY PARENTS)

Resources for Adult Survivors of Child Abuse and Neglect Adult Children of Alcoholics

• Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life
• The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
• Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up’s Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents
• If You Had Controlling Parents: How to Make Peace with Your Past and Take Your Place in the World
• Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

DIFFICULT EMOTIONS & PAINFUL TIMES

• The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & … Tolerance (New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook)
• Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow
• The Places that Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times (Shambhala Classics)
• When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times (Shambhala Classics)
• The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You

DEPRESSION & ANXIETY

Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

National Mental Health Emergency Help Line:  811

• Overcoming Depression: A Cognitive Therapy Approach Workbook (Treatments That Work)
• Mastery of Your Anxiety and Worry: Workbook (Treatments That Work)
• The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook
• I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
• Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook)

CONFIDENCE & SELF-ESTEEM

• The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
• The Self-Esteem Workbook
• Ten Days to Self-Esteem
• The Compassionate-Mind Guide to Building Social Confidence: Using Compassion-Focused Therapy to Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety (The New Harbinger Compassion-Focused Therapy Series)

disordered eating & Body Image

• Health At Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight
• Dying to Be Thin: Understanding and Defeating Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia–A Practical, Lifesaving Guide
• Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self-Acceptance
• Intuitive Eating
• Goodbye Ed, Hello Me: Recover from Your Eating Disorder and Fall in Love with Life
• Overcoming Your Eating Disorders: A Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy Approach for Bulimia Nervosa and Binge-Eating Disorder Workbook (Treatments That Work)
• Help Your Teenager Beat an Eating Disorder
• Full and Fulfilled

GRIEF & LOSS

• On Death and Dying
• A Grief Observed
• On Children and Death: How Children and Their Parents Can and Do Cope With Death
• The Grief Recovery Handbook, 20th Anniversary Expanded Edition: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses including Health, Career, and Faith
• Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief
• When Bad Things Happen to Good People
• When Someone You Love Dies
• For Survivors of Suicide
• After Suicide Loss: Coping with Your Grief
• Dying to Be Free: A Healing Guide for Families After a Suicide
• Healing After the Suicide of a Loved One
• Unfinished Conversation: Healing from Suicide and Loss
• Black Suicide: The Tragic Reality of America’s Deadliest Secret
• “Grief, Dying and Death” by Therese Rando
• “Treating Complicated Mourning” by Therese Rando
• “The Mourning After’ by Catherine Sanders
• “Tear Soup” by Pat Schwiebert & Chuck DeKlyen (for children and families)

GLBTQQI: GAY, LESBIAN, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENDER, QUEER, QUESTIONING, AND INTERSEX

• Coming Out of Shame: Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives
• Is It a Choice? Answers to the Most Frequently Asked Questions About Gay & Lesbian People, Third Edition
• The Full Spectrum: A New Generation of Writing About Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Questioning, and Other Identities
• The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World, Second Edition
• Straight Parents, Gay Children: Keeping Families Together

MENTAL HEALTH & WELLNESS

• Happy
• Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain
• Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
• The ART OF LIVING CONSCIOUSLY: The Power of Awareness to Transform Everyday Life
• Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind
• Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha

NARCISSISM

• Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self • Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry
• Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed
• Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE DISORDER

• Stop Obsessing!: How to Overcome Your Obsessions and Compulsions (Revised Edition)
• The Woman Who Thought too Much: A Memoir

RACE, CULTURE, ETHNICITY AND IDENTITY DEVELOPMENT

• Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria: And Other Conversations About Race
• White Privilege: Essential Readings on the Other Side of Racism
• What Are You?: Voices of Mixed-Race Young People
• Dim Sum, Bagels, and Grits: A Sourcebook for Multicultural Families
• Adolescent Ethnic and Racial Identity Development (presentation)

RAPE & SEXUAL ASSAULT

National Sexual Assault Hotline | 1.800.656.HOPE(4673)

• The Rape Recovery Handbook: Step-by-Step Help for Survivors of Sexual Assault
• Recovering From Rape
• Journey to Wholeness: Healing from the Trauma of Rape
• If She is Raped
• The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse (Revised Edition)
• Recovery: How to survive sexual assault for women, men, teenagers, their friends and families
• I Can’t Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors
• Acquaintance Rape
• I Never Called It Rape: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting, and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape

SCHIZOPHRENIA

• Surviving Schizophrenia, 6th Edition: A Family Manual
• The Center Cannot Hold: My Journey Through Madness
• How to Live with a Mentally Ill Person: A Handbook of Mentally Ill Strategies
• Coping with Schizophrenia: A Guide for Families

SOCIAL ANXIETY & SHYNESS

• Painfully Shy: How to Overcome Social Anxiety and Reclaim Your Life
• Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness: A Self-Help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioral Techniques
• The Compassionate-Mind Guide to Building Social Confidence: Using Compassion- Focused Therapy to Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety (The New Harbinger Compassion-Focused Therapy Series)
• Dying of Embarrassment: Help for Social Anxiety and Phobia
• Diagonally-Parked in a Parallel Universe: Working Through Social Anxiety

Sex & Love Addiction

• “Women, Sex, and Addiction” by Charlotte Kasl Ready to Heal by Kelly McDaniel
• Love warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton
• Facing Love Addiction – Pia Melody The Intimacy Factor – Pia Melody

SPIRITUALITY AND PURPOSE

• Man’s Search for Meaning
• A New Earth – Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose
• The Last Lecture
• The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling and the Search for Meaning
• “Soul Repair” by Jeff Vonvanderen
• “Angry Conversations with God” by Susan Isaacs
• God and the Gay Christian – Matthew Vines
• The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living
• The ART OF LIVING CONSCIOUSLY: The Power of Awareness to Transform Everyday Life
• Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind
• Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha

STRESS REDUCTION AND MANAGEMENT

• The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook (New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook)
• Wherever You Go, There You Are

SUPPORTING LOVED ONES WITH MENTAL HEALTH & ADDICTION CONCERNS

• “One Hour At A Time,” a free podcast by Mary Woods
• Al-Anon: Support and Resources for Family and Friends of People with Drug or Alcohol Problems
• NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness (Resources and Support for Family and Friends)
• Everything Changes: Help for Families of Newly Recovering Addicts
• Demystifying Psychiatry: A Resource for Patients and Families
• Talk Therapy TV – Videos about the warning signs, symptoms, and treatment options for mental illnesses and addictions.

SUPPORTING LOVED ONES WHO ARE SURVIVORS OF ASSAULT OR ABUSE

• When You’re the Partner of a Rape or Incest Survivor

SUBSTANCE ABUSE, ADDICTION, AND PROBLEM DRINKING

• Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (Prevention, Recovery, and Treatment)
• Online Recovery Resource Directory
• Tips for Reducing Alcohol Consumption
• The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous
• My Name Is Bill W
• Twenty Four Hours a Day
• A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery
• 12 Smart Things to Do When the Booze and Drugs Are Gone: Choosing Emotional Sobriety through Self-Awareness and Right Action
• 12 Stupid Things That Mess Up Recovery: Avoiding Relapse through Self-Awareness and Right Action
• Trauma and Addiction: Ending the Cycle of Pain Through Emotional Literacy
• Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction
• “Addiction and Grace” by Gerald May
• “Into the Shadows” by Patrick Carnes

TRAUMATIC EXPERIENCES

• The Journey From Abandonment to Healing
• Recovery of Your Inner Child by Lucia Cappchione
• Accessing the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve by Stanley Rosenberg
• What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey and Dr Bruce Perry
• In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness
• Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy
• Somatic Experiencing by Peter Levine
• The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment (Norton Professional Book)
• The Body Keeps the Score – Bessel Van der Kolk, MD Getting Past Your Past – Francine Shapiro
• It Didn’t Start With You – How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle – Mark Wolynn
• Waking The Tiger by Peter Levine
• Befriending Your Nervous System by Deb Dana
• Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection by Deb Dana
• The Deepest Well – Nadine Burke Harris

  Relational/Intimacy/Co-Dependency/Boundaries/Attachment

• Becoming the One – Sheleana Aiyana
  Attached
• Co-Dependant No More – Melody Beattie
• Boundaries – Henry Cloud
• The Gifts of Imperfection – Brene Brown
• Daring Greatly – Brene Brown
• Braving the Wilderness – Brene Brown
• The Betrayal Bond – Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick Carnes
• Love is a Choice by Dr. Robert Hemfelt (Author), Dr. Frank Minirth (Author), Paul Meier M.D. (Author)
• Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
• Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren’t
• Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

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